
But Most Of All, Commitment Is The Biggest.” ― Anonymous

She’s your heart, so make her hear your heartbeats. “Love grows and wanes, but honor, duty, and commitment, those things are constant and stable.“If we commit ourselves to one person for life, this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom rather, it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent into that love which is not possession but participation.” ―Madeleine L’Engle.“If you can’t value a commitment made by someone else, your own commitments lose their value too.” ―Ram Mohan.It is always the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning, and focused effort.” ―Paul J Meyer A process that requires trust, effort, focus and commitment by two willing partners” ―Elizabeth Bourgeret Digesting another person, however, and sustaining love, was bloody work, and not a soft job.”―Hanif Kureishi “ Falling in love was simple one had only to yield.“To fall in love and to commit yourself to love means you should make your loved one the one thing you cherish the most.” ―Kou Yoneda.They decide that it is better to put their faith in being powerful, in being dominant. This drama confirms for many men that they cannot put their trust in love.

This testing does not heal the wound of the past, it merely reenacts it, for ultimately the woman will become weary of being tested and end the relationship, thus reenacting the abandonment.

While the rejected adolescent boy imagines that he can no longer receive his mother's love because he is not worthy, as a grown man he may act out in ways that are unworthy and yet demand of the woman in his life that she offer him unconditional love. Often in their adult relationships these men act out again and again to test their partner's love. If the first woman they passionately loved, the mother, was not true to her bond of love, then how can they trust that their partner will be true to love. “Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow themselves to love for fear that the loved one will abandon them.
